i am me

I think what people are missing is the irony in the title. People are taking it very literally. There’s a survey I cite in the book which says that when women were asked if they got 80 percent of everything they want in a person, would that be OK? They said, “No, that’s settling.” And when men were asked the same question, they said “That’s a catch.”

I think when people hear the word “settling,” they think I’m saying “go pick a guy who you have no physical attraction towards, who you don’t love but who can provide a stable home for you.” I wouldn’t marry that guy, and I wouldn’t suggest anyone else should marry that guy.

I like how she thinks: pragmatic, with common sense. She talks about how romantic ideals may be foolish, how soul mates may be an interesting notion to believe, “but in truth, we could be happy with a lot of different people.” I think it does good to provoke people to be open to opportunities, when so many deny themselves especially on issues of love.

Couples

Sat, 06 Feb 2010 16:29:06 -0800

Couples

“Party Trick” Clever T-shirt designs

Thu, 04 Feb 2010 09:49:53 -0800

“Party Trick”

Clever T-shirt designs

Why Does Time Fly By As You Get Older? : NPR

Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:29:11 -0800

Why Does Time Fly By As You Get Older? : NPR:

People of all ages were asked to try an experiment: close your eyes and say when you think a minute has passed.

Bunch Of Phonies Mourn J.D. Salinger | The Onion

Sat, 30 Jan 2010 13:57:48 -0800

Bunch Of Phonies Mourn J.D. Salinger | The Onion

The New Yorker has posted all of J.D. Salinger's short stories published in the magazine online.

Thu, 28 Jan 2010 13:38:51 -0800

The New Yorker has posted all of J.D. Salinger's short stories published in the magazine online.:

chirp:

(via britticisms)

My favorite stories:

“For Esmé—With Love and Squalor”

“Teddy”

“A Perfect Day for Bananafish”

Entering Apple Restriction Zone

Thu, 28 Jan 2010 09:34:31 -0800

Entering Apple Restriction Zone

Mad Tv - IPad

Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:34:00 -0800

Mad Tv - IPad

Some of the best of PTO

Wed, 27 Jan 2010 10:27:41 -0800

putthison:

Some of the best of Put This On

So many have joined us in the past few months, so I thought I’d link to a few of our favorite pieces on the blog. Especially since my new intern starts today and I’m still exhausted from the Sundance Film Festival. (By the way: great styles in The Extra Man.)

How to shop like my mom

Wedding Attire for Guests

Wedding Attire for Grooms

The basics of business casual

Shopping for Clothes on eBay

The pop-up flea: criticisms and rejoinders

A guide to black tie

Looking for quality leather in shoes

Further info on raw denim

Why are expensive ties expensive?

Matching socks to your outfit

The too-long pants scourge

Looking for quality cashmere

Shining shoes

Boots

Can I wear Doc Martens?

How do I wear a black shirt?

Guide to Lapels

Clothing racism & the Zoot Suit Riots

Jeeves Dissaproves

Adam’s Gentleman’s Suit

Tailors: not just for rich guys

Yeah, we like Gilt Group.

"It may not be the second coming, but as one wag has already said, this is the most excitement a..."

Wed, 27 Jan 2010 08:14:26 -0800

“It may not be the second coming, but as one wag has already said, this is the most excitement a tablet has generated since Moses handed down the Ten Commandments.”

- npr

Heartbreaker. via reddit “I love you.”“I...

Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:32:38 -0800

Heartbreaker. via reddit

“I love you.”
“I know.”

High Five! via reddit

Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:29:35 -0800

High Five! via reddit