I think what people are missing is the irony in the title. People are taking it very literally. There’s a survey I cite in the book which says that when women were asked if they got 80 percent of everything they want in a person, would that be OK? They said, “No, that’s settling.” And when men were asked the same question, they said “That’s a catch.”

I think when people hear the word “settling,” they think I’m saying “go pick a guy who you have no physical attraction towards, who you don’t love but who can provide a stable home for you.” I wouldn’t marry that guy, and I wouldn’t suggest anyone else should marry that guy.

I like how she thinks: pragmatic, with common sense. She talks about how romantic ideals may be foolish, how soul mates may be an interesting notion to believe, “but in truth, we could be happy with a lot of different people.” I think it does good to provoke people to be open to opportunities, when so many deny themselves especially on issues of love.